The Dilemma of the Dress Reveal: Should you Show your Fiancé the Dress Before the Wedding?

Wedding Dress Reveal

Pros of Revealing your Wedding Dress to your Fiancé Before the Wedding

  • You and your future spouse can take wedding photos together, before the wedding. This is a positive on so many levels! Your makeup is fresh, the sunlight is better for picture quality, and your guests won't be waiting for long periods of time after the wedding to be able to eat some of that delicious food that you spent so much time picking out. The sooner everyone can get together after the wedding and celebrate your marriage sounds like a total win in our book!
  • It takes away the pressure of reactions during the wedding. Let's be honest...the moment that you, as the bride start walking down that aisle all eyes bounce back and forth between you and your soon-to-be spouse. Not only are all attending excited to see you in your wedding dress, but they are also wanting to catch the reaction of your better half as well. And to be honest, that's a lot of pressure to put on your fiancé, right? All eyes on them to see how they will react in response to seeing you for the first time? Talk about pressure city. If you both opt to have that moment in private before the wedding, it takes away the pressure of having it during.
  • Creating a private moment between just the two of you before the wedding is a moment that you will never forget. While the months, days, and hours leading up to the wedding may feel chaotic, if you choose to reveal the wedding dress to one another before the wedding, this time can be referred to "as the calm before the storm." Being able to come together, in private and just "be" while staring lovingly at one another before the ceremony and activities that are waiting is a time that you both will cherish forever.

Cons of Revealing your Wedding Dress to your Fiancé Before the Wedding

  • It's considered bad luck! Whether you believe in superstition or not, everyone knows that revealing your wedding dress before the wedding means that you're doomed to have bad luck. Is there any truth to that? Who knows...but it's something to consider if you are thinking about taking that risk or not! Do you want to potentially start your marriage out with some bad luck mojo? That choice is up to you and your fiancé! Love always conquers all, right?
  • The surprise factor is gone. If you've spent countless days and hours searching for the perfect wedding dress, revealing it beforehand can definitely take away that shock factor that you may be wanting from your future spouse as you are taking your walk down the aisle.
  • You'll have to start getting ready super early in the morning. Not wanting to wake up bright and early on your wedding day? If you're planning on showing your wedding dress before the wedding, then that means that you'll have to start getting ready even earlier as well. If you're an early riser, that may not pose an issue...but if you want to make certain you get that beauty sleep, it's definitely something to keep in mind!

Ultimately, the choice is up to you and your fiancé on whether or not you both mutually agree to see each other before the wedding. Consider it one of the first major decisions that you'll have to make before you're married, and work through it together to come to a happy place. Whatever you choose to do will be the perfect answer and decision for both of you and your big day. After all, the entire focus of the day is the union and marriage of you and your fiancé, so this decision is just the icing on the cake!

Jennifer Feldstein